**Please be sure you have read Part 1 before continuing in this series**
After receiving a few responses to Parts 1 & 2 I am going to interrupt the regularly scheduled post with a brief message :)
I'd like to answer / address some questions to help you better understand my mom's story.
- Why are you being so honest about YOUR personal struggle? ~ I am giving a peek into my journey because I know I am NOT the only that feels this way. Someone out there has my story. Someone feels too busy, too stupid, too unworthy, too fat, too discouraged. I want to encourage that one person that he/she is not alone. I am actually a very private pollyanna. I am not a couragous person. For some reason, I have this deep drive to help one single struggling spirit.
- Why are you being so honest about your MOM'S battle? ~ Let me first assure you that I am only sharing the surface story. I am carefully choosing my words to present my family's journey while ensuring that I am respectful of each member. In being transparent, I am praying that it makes one parent, child, or friend rethink their choices and make a change before it is too late. I want to address the unseen pain and damage obesity inflicts.
- Don't you think your mom would be hurt if she read these posts? ~ At first, my mom would be crushed. The woman who was in the bed the last few years would be very hurt, and, probably angry. But, MY MOM, the amazing precious spirit that so many dearly loved and respected in her healthier years would tell me to go on Oprah if I could help even just one person.
- If your mom's weight gain upset you, why didn't you bring healthier food to her room? ~ It. Was. Complicated....The easy answer: Minimal movement allowed for minimal calories. The hard answer: See # 5
- Why didn't you use tough love and be honest? To honestly address the issue can be so hurtful....It's almost as if the hurt and pain inflicted while trying to save your loved one's life is worse than your own pain in seeing them fade. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to say. I think we just survived moment by moment, day by day. When obesity comsumes your life it is like a dark hole in which there are no safety handles to grab....You. just. keep. falling deeper. and deeper.
- Didn't you say ANYTHING? I tried many times, many ways. But, refer back to #5.
- Why does your mom's battle finally give you victory over your own struggle? Being completely honest: I know me. I will never make myself a priority. I will never feel worthy or important enough to spend the money or take the time. BUT I don't want my children to go through what I went through. So, I will do what I need to do to prevent that. Period.
As this series continues, please remember my words in Part 1. This transparency is for no other intention other than to touch ONE person somewhere who will change their life because they love themselves or their loved ones too much to give up and give in to obesity.
Next in the series, A Daughter's Struggle ~ I Wasn't Enough
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